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My Link to Mildred

My Link to Mildred

by Cindy Bigbie

About This Book

The trauma in your life didn't start with you, but you have the power to end it. Dr. Cindy Bigbie is a communications specialist with a mission to turn the tide on trauma and violence. In My Link to Mildred, Dr. Bigbie reveals her own family's historical trauma, how it led to her work with Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and her belief in NVC's potential to make a more peaceful world. My Link to Mildred is an intensely personal story about how trauma plagues generations and how NVC was integral in interrupting the trauma patterns passed down over time. This story of hope and possibility includes real-world application and information about NVC. Discover the connections between trauma, brain research, and violence. Explore how NVC has the potential to reverse our national trauma epidemic and foster the healing we need in work, schools, and homes.
Psychology Psychology and Counseling
Cindy Bigbie

Cindy Bigbie

The landmark Adverse Childhood Experience Study (ACES) has provided great exposure to the issue and impact of trauma on individuals’ lives. However, current movements for systems to become more “trauma informed” tend to discuss trauma as if there is some segment of our society and we need to know how to work with THOSE individuals when, in fact, the research indicates it’s not THOSE individuals – it’s US! Most of us experienced some form of trauma growing up and those experiences have a significant impact on the way we view the world and how we interact with those around us. The epidemic of trauma is the root cause of all the disconnection and violence we see everywhere.

My Link to Mildred is a personal story about historical trauma, how it has played out through the generations, and how the use of a process called Nonviolent Communication (NVC)has been integral in interrupting the trauma patterns passed down over time. It is a story of hope and possibility with real world application and information about NVC helping the reader connect the dots between trauma, brain research, violence, and how NVC has the potential, if scaled up, to reverse the epidemic of trauma.

The Bigbie Method, a performance-based system to scale Nonviolent Communication, was developed by “Dr. B,” aka “America’s Communications Coach.” Dr. B is a sought-after NVC (Nonviolent Communications) practitioner, trainer and speaker with years of successful experience working with incarcerated youth. She is also a champion of Restorative Practices, and in 2019 won the Dennis Maloney Award for Youth-Based Community and Restorative Justice Programs from the National Association for Community and Restorative Justice.

For 25 years, thanks to her Ph.D. in Instructional Design, she traveled the United States and evaluated hundreds of different educational programs. She saw millions of dollars in grant money being used to support these programs in an attempt to advance our educational systems with little long-term results. And time and time again, she returned to the conclusion that our educational system is not advancing because we are overlooking the social-emotional component that is at the base of all. As a result, she has dedicated her career to bringing restorative practices and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to all segments of society.

And now she's compiled her 25+ years of institutional teaching experience into an award-winning approach that you can have access to anywhere.

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