Who You Are Is How You Parent

"Why don’t they listen? Why do they keep making these same terrible choices?" These questions haunt parents of struggling teens everywhere. But what if your child's challenges aren’t the problem - they’re the solution to a deeper pain you can't see? In this groundbreaking guide, Jivan Das - former troubled teen turned therapist and practicing monk - offers an unprecedented perspective from both sides of the struggle. Drawing from over 70,000 hours and 20 years of helping families in crisis, Jivan Das reveals the hidden language beneath struggles that most parents miss: every destructive choice serves a purpose your child can't articulate. With compassionate wisdom and practical strategies, Jivan Das illuminates why traditional parenting approaches fail with struggling teens and provides a revolutionary path forward. You'll discover how to create meaningful connections when your child pushes you away, implement boundaries that inspire rather than control, and transform power struggles into opportunities for healing. This isn't just another parenting book with quick fixes and empty promises. It's an invitation to see your child's struggle - and your own - as the greatest teacher you never expected. When understanding replaces judgment, everything changes. The path to helping your child begins with a journey into yourself. Are you ready?